Denying Patriarchy Exists

“Dowry victim wants death for herself and daughter.”

Twenty nine year old Alpana Pandey, who hails from a poor family in Kanpur, Uttar Pradesh, has written to the President of India, to allow euthanasia for her and her 5-year-old daughter. The reason – she and her daughter have been deserted by her husband because her family could not furnish the dowry he demanded.

Alpana married Alok Pandey in 2005 and at the time of the marriage, her family had given some gold and money as dowry. In 2006, a year after her marriage, Alpana’s husband and her father-in-law allegedly began pressurising her to give a dowry of Rs 10 lakh. When Alpana’s father said that he could not afford to give such a large amount, she was allegedly starved by her husband’s family. According to the social worker, it was at this time that they came to know of her pregnancy. Her father-in-law insisted that she go in for a sex-determination test and when they found out that the foetus was female, Alpana was thrown out of her marital home. She and her daughter have since been living with her parents.

Alpana and her family wanted the in-laws to take her and the child back, but these pleas were ignored. Alok married another woman without divorcing Alpana and moved to Lucknow. Though Alpana has filed a complaint with the police and even met with the District Magistrate and the district Police chief, they have allegedly ignored her petition and no case has yet been filed.

According to Alpana, she sent the letter to the President seeking permission for euthanasia so that she and her daughter can end their sufferings. “I have lost faith in the legal system,” she said. (read full report here)

 

“Assam: Congress MLA Rumi Nath beaten up for alleged bigamy”

Thirty-three-year-old Congress MLA from Barak Valley (Assam) Rumi Nath was on Friday night thrashed by a hundred-strong mob at a Karimganj hotel. Rumi has invited the wrath of various groups for allegedly leaving her first husband and 2-year-old daughter and eloping and marrying her Facebook friend, 28-year-old Zakir Hussain.

Rumi had gone to meet her father on Friday when the incident happened.

What is even worse is that there has been no police action in the case almost 12 hours since the mob attack on the woman and her second husband. Rumi’s bodyguards too were beaten up by the angry crowd. (from here)

 

To those who say patriarchy (and all the hypocrisy and “traditions” which go with it) does not exist in India, where do you live? 

Under a rock?

 

 

 

2 thoughts on “Denying Patriarchy Exists

  1. I am rather familiar with the Rumi Nath case. It was a politically motivated attack by RSS activists, a local politician who thought they’d milk the Hindu-Muslim communal tensions in the Bengali-speaking Barak Valley of Assam for his own benefit. Her conversion to Islam (and the implied rejection of the ‘Hindu culture’) is what irked them, not her alleged bigamy (which would have been no issue had she married a Hindu).

    What has patriarchy got to do with this?

    • “I am rather familiar with the Rumi Nath case. It was a politically motivated attack by RSS activists, a local politician who thought they’d milk the Hindu-Muslim communal tensions in the Bengali-speaking Barak Valley of Assam for his own benefit. Her conversion to Islam (and the implied rejection of the ‘Hindu culture’) is what irked them, not her alleged bigamy (which would have been no issue had she married a Hindu).”
      ^ actually, tell me an instance when a man was treated this way for an inter-religious marriage or relationship and HE WAS BLAMED and the incident was justified by saying “oh, he is such a stupid slut, he had it coming, doesn’t he know how Indian men should behave and retain their purity?”

      “What has patriarchy got to do with this?”
      ^ I can only laugh at this.

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