In India, there seems to be a taboo regarding sex and sexuality. The majority view seems to be – No, we don’t want Sex Ed!!! What if our kids turn out to be like the Immoral Damned West?!!! *gasp*
Oh, so you have no problem with saying words like VAGINA? No problem with SEX ED??!
GO AND FLASH OTHER PEOPLE, THEN!! Its all about RESPECTING YOUR BODY.
Sooooo… Respecting my body means to not talk about it? Doesn’t that actually mean that I’m ashamed of my body? Does shame and respect go hand in hand?
I think not.
Here are ten reasons why talking about sex, sexuality and genitalia shouldn’t be taboo –
#1 CHILD ABUSE. If a kid is being abused and talking about specific parts of his/her body is taboo and “shameful”, how is the kid even going to speak up?
#2 INFECTIONS. If a kid feels any sort of discomfort in his/her penis/vagina (yes,”decent” people. Run for cover!) which might lead to infections, how is the kid going to talk about it?
#3 SEXUAL ABUSE. Kids often sexually abuse younger kids. When they are curious about sex and are afraid to talk about it with their parents, they often express themselves this way.
#4 RAPE. Teenagers even go to the extent of raping other children to explore sexuality and satisfy their curiosity about sex when they can’t talk about it freely with their parents or experiment with it without shame.
#5 UNHEALTHY VIEW OF SEXUALITY. Often, these taboos give rise to screwed perceptions about sex. Which has the potential to screw up their entire outlook towards life.
#6 BEING ASHAMED OF THEIR OWN BODIES. I could just go on and on here…
#7 SLUT SHAMING. Nothing much to say, really. Just a few questions – why do some parents in India prefer to let their daughters marry their rapists? Why are rape victims murdered? Why don’t parents want their daughter to divorce her abuser? Think about it. One common element is sex.
#8 NO AWARENESS. Believe it or not, most people in India do not even have a clear idea about what constitutes consent. What is marital rape? What is date rape? Most people do not even acknowledge marital or date rape as rape. See what I’m talking about?
#9 PUBERTY. When teens reach puberty, they really have no one to guide them. That often causes misconceptions. Girls do not even know about menstruation. Many girls think they are going to bleed to death. They do not even tell anybody for a few hours. Why? It is “shameful”.
#10 MISOGYNY. The countries which have taboos about sex and anything connected with it are the most misogynistic. They shame women about something so natural. They encourage guys to participate in slut-shaming.
How is this going to help us at all? How will such taboos help us in achieving equality? How will this help in making us a more developed nation?
Vagina is not a dirty word.
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